A mother may leave because she cannot be a mother, because she follows a partner, feels overwhelmed, becomes depressed and needs hospitalization, or because you were raised by grandparents while she came and went from time to time. And sometimes, she dies — even during birth.

Every connection arrives with a lesson: boundaries, self-worth, communication, intimacy, or letting go. You might not recognize the lesson while you’re in it — it often only becomes clear once the relationship shifts or ends.

They begin to dissolve when we acknowledge what was — without judgment — and honor what came before us. In a constellation, everyone is put back in their rightful place:
the mother with her story and the child with their own life.

Are we ever truly ready? Probably not. But there’s something in our gut that nudges us forward anyway. So ready or not, here you go! You are the only one who can create the life you want — so take the leap and go for it.

When do we know it’s over? When we talk more about the past than the present—and no longer about the future. When the nostalgia of who we used to be together feels stronger than who we are now.

A slightly overwhelmed aunt, taking care of her two treasures—especially the older one, who sleeps with Auntie, does everything with Auntie… which means Auntie no longer gets anything done. I have such deep admiration for mothers and fathers (the ones who really do the job!). I see it clearly—even when the kids nap, I have so many things to catch up on that I’m no longer efficient.