I felt abandoned by my mother

Sometimes abandonment is literal, sometimes it is deeply felt.

A mother may leave because she cannot be a mother, because she follows a partner, feels overwhelmed, becomes depressed and needs hospitalization, or because you were raised by grandparents while she came and went from time to time. And sometimes, she dies — even during birth.

The mother is our first bond with life. That early relationship shapes many aspects of our adult life. Often we need to gently deconstruct those patterns in order to heal — so we don’t keep unconsciously looking for “mother” in our partners, friendships, or career.

Over the past 11 years, I have met many clients with mother-related wounds. Some of the most moving journeys have been with those whose mothers died. You could see the self-sabotage, addictions, the sense of being rootless, of not belonging. The reconciliation here is to re-engage with life itself — to honor the gift of life. And when that happens, faces soften, shoulders release their heaviness, and there is a quiet acceptance: I am alive — and by honoring my life, I honor my mother’s life too.

If this is your story — feeling or being abandoned by your mother — it may echo in your relationships today.

How is your relationship with women?
If you’re a man, do you distance yourself from emotionally open women?
Do you feel anger toward women?
Did you become the “little parent,” taking care of your father too early?
Do you tend to neglect your own needs, sacrifice yourself, struggle with addiction, or feel afraid of love, success, or life itself?

If any of this resonates, you don’t have to carry it alone.
Book your session — it would be an honor to work with you.

With love,
Marine Sélénée