Everybody Is the Right One at the Right Time — Depending on What You Need to Heal

We often look back at relationships and label them as mistakes, wrong choices, or detours from where we “should” have gone. But what if no one was actually the wrong person? What if each person who entered your life arrived exactly when you needed them — not always to stay, but to help you heal something you were ready to face?

People don’t just come into our lives randomly. They mirror us. They awaken old wounds, trigger buried emotions, and sometimes also bring comfort, safety, and love. Some stay briefly and shake everything up. Others stay longer and hold us while the dust settles. Each of them plays a role in our inner evolution.

The “right one” is not always the easiest one. Sometimes the right person is the one who activates your abandonment wound so you can finally see it. Sometimes it’s someone who doesn’t choose you, so you learn to choose yourself. Sometimes it’s the person who loves you deeply so you can remember what being seen truly feels like. And sometimes it’s the one who leaves so you can rebuild from within.

Every connection arrives with a lesson: boundaries, self-worth, communication, intimacy, or letting go. You might not recognize the lesson while you’re in it — it often only becomes clear once the relationship shifts or ends. But with time, we can look back with less blame and more understanding: they were exactly who I needed for the level of healing I was ready for at that moment.

This perspective doesn’t romanticize pain; it gives meaning to it. It frees you from regret and helps you take responsibility for your healing rather than staying stuck in “why did this happen to me?”

The next time you think, I wasted my time, gently reframe it: This person came so I could grow into more of myself. Some people are meant to walk the whole journey with you. Others are meant to walk you to the next chapter. Both are important.

In the end, it isn’t about finding “the one.” It’s about becoming the one who is whole within themselves — thanks to every encounter that helped you heal along the way.

With love,
Marine Sélénée