A Client’s Story: “I didn’t want children… but I had them.”

A client once told me, speaking about her children: “I never truly desired to have children.”

This is not a judgment.
It is a reality that some people carry: being born without having been truly desired.

In Family Constellations, we often see the traces of this kind of transgenerational memory:
– feeling like you are “too much”
– believing you must earn love
– repeatedly entering toxic relationships
– carrying a deep sadness with no clear reason

These imprints are not a fatality.

They begin to dissolve when we acknowledge what was — without judgment — and honor what came before us.

In a constellation, everyone is put back in their rightful place:
the mother with her story,
the child with their own life.

And then, peace can circulate again through the lineage.

This is the power of the systemic perspective: to see, to acknowledge, and to release.

With love,
Marine Sélénée