My mother had me at 24, and unfortunately she struggled with postpartum depression—something that, at the time, was rarely talked about and often suffered in silence. She believes that this is where my emotional sensitivity comes from. Growing up, my mother was also in denial about my father.

Well… I do have daddy issues! LOL. I’ve healed a lot around them, but they’re still part of my story—and I’m choosing to take the best from it. I could focus on everything I didn’t get: how he abandoned us, disowned us, treated us like a burden, never said I love you, blamed us for my mother leaving… The list could go on and on.

We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to open our hearts. We want the other person to do it first. We hesitate to be authentic if it means risking rejection. But vulnerability means saying, I trust you with my heart and emotions, so I choose to show up with my truth.

We love similarities because they make connection feel easy. But relationships don’t thrive because two people are the same — they thrive because they know how to stay connected when they’re not. Differences are inevitable: communication styles, needs, pace, beliefs, boundaries.

Disconnection doesn’t start with love disappearing—it starts when we abandon parts of who we are to keep the peace or to be loved. Each time we silence ourselves, we step a little further away from our center—and our partner can only meet the version of us that remains present.

There’s real power in seeing, in recognizing and facing the truth that maybe, right now, you’re not okay. You might feel empty, sad, or lost. And that’s okay. This moment doesn’t define your life; it’s just where you are right now.