The past weekend I hosted a Family Constellations workshop and the theme of the day was reconnecting with and respecting the masculine. One of the participants said to the masculine “But, I need you.” And, the masculine replied “Me too.” We all want the same thing and most of the time, we project on to each other our needs and expectations.

I just spent a few days at my friend’s place and she has a cat, Pinceau. Pinceau is all about Love and he is not afraid at all (!) of asking for it. He will interrupt you while doing Pilates, he will jump on your lap while you’re working, or he will happily join you when laying on the sofa. Pinceau reminded me of my dogs and the horses I used to take care of. It struck me that animals are not afraid of asking for and giving Love. They are in the moment, not wondering if the other is going to give back or not. For them it’s already granted. 

As human beings, we have the tendency to spend a lot of time in our problems, rather than focusing on the solutions! Back pain? We keep focusing on what may have caused it. Cheated on? We keep insulting and cursing the mistress or lover. Unhappy? We keep complaining about it. Single (not by choice) We keep feeding the victim mindset. You get the picture.

It’s a reminder to receive the gift of life, to embrace it to the fullest because you can be the healthiest person in the entire world but if it’s out of fear, at some point, Life might remind you to breathe deeper, to exist more, to feel alive more. To Life!

As far as I can remember I’ve never been at peace. I’ve always loved the passion, the fight, the scream, the violence. For me it was a way of feeling alive. It was a way of escaping the numbness, the trauma, and not letting the darkness win. It's an exhausting way to live.

Compassion for your journey. Compassion for who you are. Compassion for where you are. Compassion for others. Having compassion is a noble feeling. You might not understand everything about a person but you can look at them with complete acceptance and respect.