There’s real power in seeing, in recognizing and facing the truth that maybe, right now, you’re not okay. You might feel empty, sad, or lost. And that’s okay. This moment doesn’t define your life; it’s just where you are right now.

There comes a moment in every soul’s journey when we realize that survival has a cost. It’s not always paid in money, time, or energy… sometimes, it’s paid in pieces of ourselves. The parts we’ve silenced, suppressed, or tucked away just to keep going. For many of us, those abandoned parts are the most tender, vital expressions of who we truly are, the parts that once felt safe to feel, dream, or create before the world told us we had to be strong, realistic, or useful.

Because one day, everything you thought was solid simply collapsed. The foundation you built with so much care — gone overnight. You find yourself standing at the bottom, staring at the ruins of a life you spent years building, one step at a time.

The complexity of emotions and how our bodies react to trauma or difficult challenges is fascinating. A few days ago, I had an epiphany. I work out every day because I enjoy it, and it’s also part of my well-being routine—it helps me give my best to my clients without holding onto their energies.

In Family Constellations, one of the most important practices is choosing life. Too many people live with one foot in life and one in death, often without realizing it. When that happens, it shows up as self-sabotage, fear of love, avoidance of happiness, or guilt about simply existing. Sometimes, this entanglement is connected to a miscarriage, an abortion, a suicide, or a parent who died young.

No matter how distant you may feel—whether you don’t speak often, or only see each other on rare occasions—there is an undeniable need for unity. True strength lies in knowing that, no matter what, you have each other's back. That no matter how far you’ve wandered, you can always come home—to a place that feels safe simply because it is.