happy holidays

A slightly overwhelmed aunt, taking care of her two treasures—especially the older one, who sleeps with Auntie, does everything with Auntie… which means Auntie no longer gets anything done.

I have such deep admiration for mothers and fathers (the ones who really do the job!). I see it clearly—even when the kids nap, I have so many things to catch up on that I’m no longer efficient.

And then there’s Grandpa, who needs things explained and repeated three times because he’s losing his hearing—while at the same time I repeat the same thing fifteen times to my nephew… and in his case, it’s definitely not a hearing issue (!).

And then there’s my mom—learning to be gentler, more patient, because even if I still think she’s 30 years old, that’s not true. Time passes. And the more we grow, the more we take care of our family. We change. We evolve.

In constellations, we practice acceptance, respect, and honoring the order of family members—and it’s a daily practice. I belong to the middle generation: saying goodbye to elders who have lived nearly a century, while welcoming the newest ones who are just one to three years old.

So during this holiday season, when we complain, lose patience, and get irritated—because deep down, I think we all want the same thing: to give love, to feel love—let’s focus on that. We do the best we can, with love. And even if that love is sometimes clumsy or misunderstood, it is still love.

Wishing you beautiful holidays from an overwhelmed aunt who dreams of nothing more than sleeping eight hours straight.

With love,
Marine Sélénée