From surviving to existing
"Resilience is the journey from merely surviving to truly living, the act of reclaiming your aliveness and finding the courage to choose Life, again and again, no matter what you’ve been through. Still standing. Still choosing Life.” Marine Selenee
Here we are, the end of the year, the close of a 9-year chapter, and the beginning of a brand-new cycle in just 30 days.
So, let me ask you:
What are you ready to let go of?
What have you learned from the past 9 years?
And what do you want to carry with you into the next 9?
As we prepare to close 2025, I want to talk about resilience and about the quiet heroes I’m lucky enough to call my clients and friends.
The other day, I was on the phone with one of my best friends. He told me not to give up that I was going to change the world with Endobiogeny, women’s health, and my ability to make complex concepts accessible. (Thank you, Maya Cross - my Human Design explains it all!)
My purpose has always been to simplify what feels complicated, first through therapy, and now through women’s health, with my French accent along for the ride. But I digress…
Back to my heroes, those resilient souls who keep standing up, keep choosing Life, again and again. I don’t know if I’ll ever change the world as my bestie believes, but I’ll keep trying to have as much impact as I can, for health, for vitality, for reclaiming our vibrant selves.
Because resilience is built on faith, the quiet, steady belief that no matter what, things will be okay. That’s why resilient people keep choosing Life. They keep choosing themselves. Over and over again.
And that brings me to a deeper question, one I invite you to sit with as this cycle closes:
What part of me have I abandoned in order to survive?
There comes a moment in every soul’s journey when we realize that survival has a cost.
It’s not always measured in time or money, sometimes it’s paid in pieces of ourselves. The parts we’ve silenced, suppressed, or tucked away just to keep going.
Often, those are the most tender, vital expressions of who we truly are, the parts that once felt safe to feel, to dream, to create, before the world told us we had to be strong, realistic, or useful.
Somewhere along the way, we traded innocence for independence. Sensitivity for strength. Wonder for control. We learned to hide our softness to be taken seriously. We learned to silence our intuition to be accepted. We wore masks that helped us survive, until those masks began to suffocate us.
But what happens when the life we built on survival no longer fits?
When the armor that once protected us becomes too heavy to carry?
When the quiet ache inside whispers: You’ve been gone too long… it’s time to come home to yourself.
Reclaiming those lost parts isn’t about blaming the past, it’s about remembering. Remembering the version of ourselves who laughed freely, trusted deeply, and expressed without permission.
It’s about sitting with those silenced parts, the artist, the dreamer, the lover, the child, and saying:
I see you. I’m sorry I left you behind. You deserved more tenderness than I knew how to give.
Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about becoming whole again. It’s about integrating what we abandoned in the name of survival and realizing that thriving requires something entirely different, presence, softness, authenticity, and love.
So ask yourself:
What part of me have I abandoned in order to survive?
And what would it look like to invite that part back home?
Because maybe, just maybe, the part you left behind is the missing piece to your freedom, your resilience, your path back to Life. Back to Love.
And that’s what I wish for all of you, to find that part again (if it’s been missing) and create something beautiful from it. Let it become your beacon, guiding you to reengage with Life, to believe in yourself again. Because you are, and have always been, a superhero.
With love,
Marine Sélénée