Who is your villain?

In every story, there is always a villain.
The one you complain about.
The one you blame for your life.
The one who had such a strong impact on you that your power still feels like it’s in their hands.

Even as adults, we often look for a villain to carry our responsibility — someone to blame so we don’t have to fully face what we did, what we allowed, or how we feel. It’s easier to point to someone from childhood… or someone in our present.

“It’s not me. It’s her.”
“It’s not me. It’s him.”

As innocent as it may seem, it reveals one thing: a part of you is not ready to move on from the pain you’re projecting onto that person.

Be careful.
You can lose your time, your power, and above all, your own life staying attached to that role.

If your villain is from the past, try something radical: thank them.
It’s not easy to carry the role of “the villain” in someone else’s story. And maybe — just maybe — because of them, you chose not to become mean, abusive, bitter, or addicted. Maybe their impact shaped your strength, your awareness, your compassion.

And if the villain is in your present moment, remember this: most of the time, they are not thinking about you. They are busy dealing with their own wounds and projections.

So ask yourself:

• What am I protecting by keeping them in this role?

• Who am I actually seeing in them?

• What part of my story am I avoiding?

Reclaiming your power starts the moment you stop needing a villain.

And if you feel ready to explore this more deeply, I’m here.

With love,
Marine Sélénée