the dance between togetherness and separateness

In every relationship, there is a delicate dance between two opposing needs: the need for togetherness and the need for separateness.
One partner may fear losing the other, while the other may fear losing themselves.
One may carry a deep fear of abandonment, while the other wrestles with a fear of suffocation.

These dynamics are not random; they are rooted in how we were once loved — or not loved. They are the fingerprints of our emotional histories, pressed deeply into the way we connect, the way we argue, the way we seek comfort and distance.
Tell me how you were loved, and I will tell you how you make love.

Not just how you love, but how you make love — because your emotional blueprint is inscribed in your sexuality.
Your sexual preferences, your desires, your fantasies: they are not simply about physicality. They are a translation of your deepest emotional needs. Not sexual needs — emotional needs.

Sexuality, at its core, is a coded language.
It expresses our wounds, our fears, our longings, and our hopes.
Sex is never just sex — even in a casual encounter. Even in a one-night stand, there is an unspoken emotional narrative, a quest for connection, a whisper of our most hidden selves.

Perhaps sexuality is not merely a reflection of the relationship.
Maybe it is a parallel narrative — a story unfolding beside the relationship, sometimes in harmony, sometimes in tension.
When a couple transforms their sexual connection, they often transform their entire relationship.
And when infidelity occurs, it is not always the death knell of a relationship.
Often, it is a search: a man or a woman yearning to feel different, to reclaim a lost self, to awaken parts of themselvesthat have gone dormant.

Aliveness — the pulse of vitality, creativity, freedom — is the core of the erotic.
It is not just about the sexual. It is about feeling vibrantly alive.

Much Love, 
Marine Sélénée