shine
"When we fear losing others more than losing ourselves, that’s when our light begins to fade. We dim our shine, hoping that if we make ourselves smaller, quieter, or more agreeable, the people we love will stay. But isn’t it strange—this belief that if we stay joyful, radiant, and true to ourselves, we’ll be abandoned? Somewhere along the way, we learned to trust that misery connects us more than joy ever could. But that’s not the truth. That’s just the wound speaking." Marine Sélénée
When did I stop shining?
When did I stop embracing who I truly am—fully, joyfully—laughing at my quirks, celebrating my strengths, and accepting my flaws with love?
When did I stop choosing joy?
When did I start dimming my light just to make others feel comfortable?
When did I begin ignoring my intuition, prioritizing others' voices over my own?
I forget, sometimes, that just as I am, I am already enough.
To shine isn’t selfish—it’s a way to honor my ancestors, uplift those around me, and lead with truth.
So… are you ready to shine again?
To reclaim your power and remember that shrinking yourself serves no one?
We lead by example—when you embrace your light, you give others permission to do the same.
But where did that fear begin? In your family system? With a specific person?
Did you hear things like: “Don’t be too much,” “Tone it down,” or “It’s vulgar to be that happy”?
Those tiny, offhand comments can leave deep imprints—especially when we’re too young to understand them. Over time, they build a belief system that tells us it’s safer to stay small.
After 10 years of offering therapy, I can tell you: this is often a women’s issue—but not exclusively.
Men can also carry wounds, often shaped by their mothers’ pain. Some respond with silence; others become vocal, domineering, even narcissistic.
Women, on the other hand, tend to shut down. They become passive-aggressive, quietly hoping someone will notice them, ask, “What’s wrong?” But even that hope requires them to speak—and speaking is already an act of shining.
How many women struggle with thyroid issues? The thyroid is connected to the throat.
And only recently have women been allowed to speak more freely. Even now, being vocal doesn’t guarantee being heard—but the fact that we’re finally raising our voices? That’s powerful. And maybe, just maybe, it means fewer thyroid issues for future generations.
Dimming your light often stems from fear: fear of not being loved, fear of rejection, fear of being too much. And sometimes the people around us—people who love us—aren’t truly happy for us. Even unconsciously, we can feel their discomfort, and it makes us want to shrink. But it takes courage to shine. It takes strength to show up as you are. And every time you do, you create a ripple effect—inviting others to do the same.
You can also work with me 1:1, or join my donation-based program—a blend of Family Constellations and Endobiogeny, because I believe in treating the whole system: body and mind.
Last but certainly not least, I’m partnering with Dr. Demir, a holistic psychiatrist. Together, we’ve merged our expertise to guide you through a step-by-step journey toward reducing—and potentially freeing yourself from—medication. Our approach centers on mindfulness, safety, and personal empowerment every step of the way. This is about reclaiming your narrative—a story rooted in freedom, joy, abundance, and love, because these are your inherent birthrights as a human being.
My vision is simple:
To help you shine.
To help you live an abundant life—whatever that means for you.
With love,
Marine Sélénée