change
“That moment when you know there’s no turning back—when the only way forward is to fully embrace the shift. Change stirs apprehension, but more than anything, it brings a radical freedom. The freedom to simply be." Marine Sélénée
We’ve all read it a thousand times on social media: “Embrace the change. Welcome the change. Change is the next door to open…” and so on.
But the truth? Change can be terrifying.
We’re creatures of habit. We don’t like change—at least, not the kind that shakes us out of our comfort zone. Yet we are always changing, even when we don’t notice it. We grow, expand, and shift every single day. It’s the natural rhythm of life: one day, a tiny alien-looking newborn; a few months later, a chubby baby; then a curious little girl or boy. Our bodies, minds, and hearts are constantly adapting to new movements, environments, and situations.
When change is gradual and beyond our control, we tend to accept it as natural. But when it no longer feels aligned with who we are inside—that’s when change becomes the “enemy.” Maybe it’s seeing new lines in the mirror, feeling less vibrant, waking with stiff joints, or noticing our energy fade. Maybe it’s the spark in a relationship dying out, a dream job becoming dull, or our health taking a turn.
In those moments, we must decide to shift, to take the risk, to choose change. And that’s the scary part—because now it’s not just happening to us. We are the ones initiating it.
If we resist, life will eventually find a way to push us into it. Sometimes it shows up as the “dark night of the soul,” where everything that felt solid suddenly crumbles. You’re left standing there, stripped bare, wondering: Where do I even start?
That’s why so many people resist healing—whether it’s emotional, physical, or spiritual. Who am I without the version of myself I’ve always known? I’ve felt that resistance too. I’ve fought against it, tightened around it, tried to control it—because it didn’t match the life I had imagined.
But here’s the truth: when you surrender—and yes, that’s my favorite English word—you stop making life your opponent. It doesn’t mean things suddenly become easy. It means you allow them to make sense in their own time. You open to alignment.
And that’s when change stops being a threat and becomes a strength. A friend. You feel your energy shift, your presence deepen, your sense of self return.
This year has brought so much rawness, newness, and the question: Who am I without my armor? And the answer is simple—I am me. Priceless, irreplaceable, and the only one we should strive to be.
Change is not always the destruction we fear—it can be the rebuilding we need. Like the Tower card in tarot, its collapse signals that it’s time to start fresh. Trust that in shedding the old skin—through therapy, through healing, through honesty with yourself—you are already becoming who you were meant to be.
With love,
Marine Sélénée