What are you waiting for? A baby, partner, job, miracle, recovery, house, forgiveness, reconciliation, hotter body? We've all waited for something thinking it's going to make our life better, more enjoyable, more fun, more lovable, and more abundant.

Once upon a time, families used to be estranged from members that were homosexual, single mothers, sensitive, or handicapped. Any members that could (from their perspective) disturb the balance of the family, had to be hidden and those family members were destined to be a secret.

Having been on the spiritual path for a long time now, I can see when being spiritual is simply a trend for some. The ones pretending that they are spiritual and want peace and send peace, and blah, blah, blah, while actually their behavior is the complete opposite. The "spiritual" people who are always right and treat others like a piece of shit, but in the name of peace and being so much higher in the air than us common mortals.

Fifteen years ago, on May 19th 2009, my first husband was arrested in Miami for domestic violence while I was in Los Angeles, trying to heal. As much as that time of my life was hard, it was also the beginning of finding myself. The beginning of being a woman.

What happened between men and women? Between the masculine and feminine? The imbalance of masculine and feminine has been a recurring theme in my practice, along with my friends too, and within my own personal journey. I’m not saying that I got everything figured out, however, I do feel that I have a sense of what has been happening between us.

Whatever you did not understand and/or heal with your parents, your love life will be the playground of replaying that dynamic over and over again until you finally heal from it. The trick here is that your partner won’t be able to represent either of your parents, but you will be the one healing the dynamic within yourself by becoming the parent that your inner child wishes they could’ve had.