Women who have a mother wound will often end up with men who cannot look after them emotionally. As a child, these women learned that to receive love from their mother, they had to put their own needs last, and not express their truth because otherwise they would face disapproval and criticism. They believe that to love someone means to sacrifice their own needs.

In Britney’s case, her father lost his mother and then he did the same thing to his daughter. Since we don’t know the entire story, I won’t make any bold statements. But, we can look at what played out through a different lens. Was Britney’s father scared of his daughter committing suicide? Did he feel helpless with his mother’s health so he tried to control his daughter’s health?

Women who had emotionally absent fathers that did not really connect to them and/or did not always seem interested in them are more likely to develop hyper independence. Women who have a father wound aren’t usually able to emotionally depend on people because they don’t feel safe enough to trust.

Some of my female clients kept recommending the book "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle. I finally decided to read it. Well, I agree with the author's perspective about 70%. There was around 30% for me that was a bit too old fashioned for our time. I believe that our men have grown up and are embracing + accepting women reclaiming their lives, financial independence, and having a voice. 

Do you remember that pure Love? It probably lasted 9 months, more or less. It was amazing. All your needs were met without doing or asking for anything. You felt completely safe, completely well taken care of, and you could feel the Love coming towards you.

Any type of successful and nurturing relationships is the right balance between giving and receiving. Because that latter involved that relationship is based on respect, trust, vulnerability and so true intimacy can exist. And you can see it in any constellations when there is a lack of balance between giving and receiving, the family members are angry, resentful and bittersweet. Because none of them feel seen, heard and recognized.