April 30, 2021

You don’t stop laughing because you grow older. You grow older because you stop laughing. Maurice Chevalier 

And it’s time to laugh again! As life is supposed to be fun! 

We have been doing amazingly great to rebound from that pandemic, still finding light in order to move on. We became aware of what was not working for us anymore and we had to make difficult, but necessary, decisions because despite our best efforts, it did not feel aligned with our true self anymore  – Leaving a career, divorcing or breaking up, saying no to a toxic friendship, mourning a deep loss, or simply reinventing ourself, not listening to our bullshit or excuses anymore and just doing it. Because Life is precious. Because Life is a gift. Because we deserve to be happy and laugh every day! 

Laughing is a great companion of healing. 

The more we laugh, the more we heal. The more we energize our body, the more we feel alive! 

Healing is a matter of decision. As long as we are still in an active conflict meaning the emotional conflict has not been resolved consciously, most external treatments (conventional or alternative) will have no effect. For a treatment to work, we have to be in a true repair, healing phase. 

After almost 10 years of practice, it looks like as simple as it is (and, if you know me, you know that I don’t preach complication!) that the secret to heal seems to fall madly in love with ourselves first and then others. 

If there is such thing as ‘failure’ of healing (I don’t believe in failure, I only believe in lessons) but, if we still feel stuck in our healing journey, it may be that we are still in our mind, stuck in it, and in restriction mode of feeling. 

Feeling is the direct road of healing but it’s not easy neither comfortable. We are scared of our feelings and emotions while actually, we as human beings, we are only made of feelings and emotions! So, being scared of them is being scared of ourselves… Vicious cycle here! 

The more we embrace our emotions, the more we embrace our true self and, at that moment, the magic can happen! 

So, the first step in healing is telling the truth. When we tell the truth we acknowledge our losses. When we acknowledge our losses, we grieve about them. When we grieve about them, we let go of defining ourself by how much and how badly we’ve been abused. We begin living in the present instead of living in reaction to the past. 

And that’s again is pure magic! 

At every moment of our life, we are choosing either to reveal ourselves or to protect ourselves, to value ourselves or to diminish ourselves, to tell the truth or to hide, to dive into life or to avoid it. 

What is your choice? 

Then, to keep taking care of your healing, be present in the process, take actions that feel connected to you (and not others!) and laugh a lot with your loved ones. 

Who are you going to be after your healing? 

Who do you want to be?  

I want to be a happy adult. 

Marine Sélénée