June 27, 2019

When was the last time you had fun? 

When was the last time you laughed? A big and joyful one. The one that comes from your gut. 

When was the last time you enjoyed an entire day being in the present moment and not worrying about the future? 

We all want to be happy. But, how many of us are really happy? 

I’m not talking about being joyful 24 hours a day, 7 days a week looking like a Teletubbies on ecstasy. I’m talking about that sense of being at peace, being grateful for what is and having trust for tomorrow – knowing that no matter what will happen, we will always find the silver lining. We will always do our best to adjust our perception around that situation that will empower us rather than weaken us. We won’t be a victim, we will be the leader of our life. 

Because, whatever our problem or challenge might be, we will laugh at it. Long and hard. Because we are forever and the challenge is temporary. 

Isn’t it? 

I know, most of the time, we believe that the situation will be forever and we are temporary. While actually, nothing lasts forever. 

And, for that reason, I love therapy so much. Whenever someone enters my office, I’m so thrilled for him/her because she/he might not be aware of it yet but deep down, she/he already knows that he/she is forever and that today can make the difference – writing a new story. 

That person is ready to drop the “I want to be right” and pick “I want to be happy” vibe. 

That person is ready to take responsibility on how he/she wants to feel. 

That person is committed to her/his path and he/she is not afraid of claiming out loud “I deserve the best.” 

That person is ready to understand others through acceptance and respect and not anymore through the lens of judgement. 

And, finally, that person is ready to not take himself/herself that seriously. Because, damn “la vida es un carnaval’ (Celia Cruz)! 

Enjoying each ride of it and not being scared of asking for what we want while keeping an open mind on how we will receive it. 

Is it the secret of happiness? 

Let our life be a testimonial of that. 

So, just do your best. Laugh a lot. And during tough and/or stressful times, ask yourself: “In six months, will it still matter?” If, the answer is not a YES at 100%, you can already drop the struggle and move on. Because, my dear, it’s a waste of your time and energy. 

Life is supposed to be fun. 

Marine Sélénée